We have all heard the cliché “if you wait until you are ready you will never be ready” and a more familiar one of recent that ‘all we have is now’.


While having a vision for our future that differs from our current circumstances can be inspiring and exciting, it can also keep us from fully committing to our present placement, in the sense that our thoughts about the future distracting us from our participation in the moment. We may find upon searching our hearts that we are waiting for some future time or situation in order to self-actualize, which in turn take a away the joy and beauty of the current moment and our reality…. With regard to which we can refer to the fact that its not reality that makes us suffer its out thoughts and the fact the tendency to fall into a pattern of belief that we should be somewhere than where we are now, or when we have / attain a certain thing we will be happier, more content, accomplished or whatever it may be that we attach to that belief.


Reality, however, is that there are no guarantees in this life, so when we hold back from something believing that it is not the right moment we do so at the risk of never fully blossoming, and continually boycotting the action until we believe the moment is the right one – when really all we have is the current moment we are in and as more deeply discussed by Eckhart Tolle in his book the Power of Now.


The present moment always offers us the ground in which we can take root and open our hearts, in the sense that we live fully, wherever we are, not hesitating because conditions are not perfect, or we might end up moving, or we haven’t found our life partner etc. Acting from this place can be scary, because we might feel that we are giving up our cherished dreams if we do not agree to wait for them, yet the idea that we have to hold back our life force now in order to find happiness later doesn’t really make sense when you think about it. What can often be the case is that we are afraid to embrace this moment, and ourselves, just exactly as we are right now, hence a tendency to hold back from fully loving ourselves, as we are, where we are.


In life cultural and social beliefs tendencies and trends present us with the habit of presenting requiring a set conditions – ‘ifs and whens’ that must be fulfilled before we will say yes to the gift of our life itself. The time is “now” for each of us to bloom where we are planted, and in so overriding our tendency to hold back. “Now” is the time to say yes, be brave and commit fully to ourselves, because until we do no one else will or can do it for us. “Now” is the time to be vulnerable, unfolding delicately yet fully into the space in which we find ourselves.